It has been 8 weeks of discussing the NOW. From death, to happiness, decision making and more conscious living.
A note on closing your past. As of my example I blamed other people for pushing me into something. I have since learned that the decisions are solely made by yourself and you are solely responsible for what you decide.
You carry 100% of the responsibility to make your life work. No one else.
In other words, you need to stop blaming others for your decisions. Steve Jobs addressing the graduates from Stanford said it very clearly: don’t live someone else’s life, you living and creating your own life. No one can live a life for you. No one can make decisions for you, not even your spouse or closest friends. Their advice might add more weight into your decision but the decision is yours. Don’t blame anyone else for what you are doing.
I stepped into dog poo lately. I dragged it around the house and carpets and it took me an hour to clean it. That was my fault, and my fault only. Sh* happens. I cannot blame the dog, or the dog’s owner but myself who never noticed stepping into it. But my initial reaction was different. I am only human 😉
Your past, your childhood in particular, will shape the rest of your life. Often you hear speakers who had bad childhoods and out of desperation broke free and made something out of their life. Bad and good experiences lead to you making decisions – desperation or inspiration – will lead you to change your life from smoking 60 cigarettes a day to giving up completely overnight. You are influenced of course by your grand-parents, mostly by your parents, then your childhood friends, the society you live in, the school and the teachers and so on. They are all mentors in your life and you need to pick out the advice that works for you in order to go your own way. There are practises that allow you to see how your family constellation works and influences you. I believe in them and they can show you some deep insights into what might have happened in the past.
To explore and let go.
To put more focus into the NOW.
The trick is to cherish all experiences though. You want to be sure you appreciate bad and good experiences for what they were. And any of those experiences will help you making who you are now, helped you becoming the person you are. In a good or bad way. Once you can appreciate that, you can let go of those feelings, particularly the bad ones, in order to move on. Usually those bad feelings hold you in the past. You need to find closure with your past instead of wasting valuable energy dwelling on what once has been. Because you will not be able to change it any more.
Living in the now for me is being the master of your own destiny.
I hope you enjoyed this journey for what it is today. Please comment below on what you are thinking and what you would like to discuss. I am happy to add more content based on what you suggest.
The exercise of making my book available for free, open source, on this domain, is to welcome ideas, inputs and comments to improve the overall product in order to help you and others even more.
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