NLP And Personal Development (4 of 5)

Let’s look at values a bit more granular.

You might want to consider identifying your values in life. That is an exercise that can be or should be done on a regular basis as life changes and your values might change. Events like having children, getting married or moving house change your perception of the world (your map of the world) and hence can result in you changing your values. To find your values sit down and think about what you enjoy doing, what is important to you, when were you happiest etc. to identify maybe that you are a family person with a strong sense of belonging or you are a career person.

Some values would have been there from birth, some will be adopted based on life’s experience. Try to prioritise the ones that are most important for you, like honesty, family, fairness, teamwork, and career. Again most people would find it most useful to search for questionnaire resources online to establish more details.

What is important for you?

Balance your life and provide security for your family?

Being the person at work that works very hard?

Giving it all for the charity run? Always giving 110%?

You can do research for instance by using the wheel of life ( where you will examine different areas of your life in order to establish which areas need some improvement. On the web you will find plenty of guidance and recommendations on how to do it. Areas to look at are Health, Family, Finances, Personal Development, Career, Recreation, Spirituality and Goals.

From my blog: Wheel of life

26th February 2009

As a coach for personal development I am very interested in all sorts of theories. In the recent issue of the Saturday Financial Times I found an article about the perfect small home and this guy in Iowa who lives in a very small trailer.

However, looking through the website I found a life map which got my attention. It plans out what your focus in life is and why and how….. – really it is a “wheel of life”.

It examines certain areas of your life and analyses where you are happy with, e.g. in this example from Dave where the family part of the wheel is almost 100% in terms of achievement and happiness, whilst the money part still needs development. Anyhow, the wheel of life focuses on: career, money, health, partner, family, friends, learning and environment. You can add or remove categories, e.g. if you study “studying” or if you do a lot of sports it could be “basketball” for instance additional to health.

Now, the other wheel I found at a different source has very similar categories: Lifeways (equivalent to “way of life”), Health, Career, Finance, Relationship, Activism and Effectiveness. I like that split (

The reason I like it, is the way it starts with Lifeways and the determination about your belief system. Like me being a Buddhist. It then takes you on to health and career as well as finance like the “normal coaching wheel”. However, it then splits more into relationship in general, taking into consideration the relationship in general, e.g. family and partnership.

I find the category of “activism” very interesting: Something you would die for, something you are passionate about. Exactly, how many people just live and do not know what they really like? What they want? What makes them tick? Wow, how can we go ahead and become passionate about something. What gets you up in the morning and gets you going? What is your biggest achievement today? How can you change things today to make a better tomorrow? That is great stuff!

Effective Living is the last category. Reminds me of Buddhism in terms of letting go of material value. How can you achieve more with less?

I am sure you come across all different life maps and wheels. And, giving our lives, each wheel will be different and every map and category means something different for everyone. However, it is good to take some time, sit down and draw your own map. And, think about the passion and your lifestyle. Anything you can improve? It is not all about finance and career. Or, can you integrate your activism and effective living into the career and finance category? Get what they call a holistic living system.

Whilst the above example of a holistic life is about Gregory’s life and approach to a “small, simple, sustainable” life I would like to take the idea a bit further.

The holistic life approach and your areas of life that map out your life should really aim at your personal life. It should identify areas that are important to you, and most likely family/relationship, career and finance would be. However, holistic means that you need to integrate all parts in the “full circle”. It is your life where each part is dependable from the other. Means you need to have a holistic view of your life.

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